Mary Essling

September 13, 1953 - November 9, 2021

Mary Essling picMary Essling (aka Mary Kate, or Mame to immediate family), 68, of Aurora (formerly of St. Charles) passed away Tuesday, November 9, 2021, at Mercy Center Hospital in Aurora with her loving family by her side. She was born September 13, 1953 in St. Charles to Walter and Mary (Bell) Foulkes.

Mary grew up in St. Charles and worked at Essex Hardware and Hines Lumber Company. In the 1970s, Mary began working at Tri-Com as a 911 dispatcher for Batavia, Geneva, and St. Charles police and fire. After Tri-Com, Mary worked in Aurora as a contractor that trained air traffic controllers for the Midwest. In 1992, Mary became a mother to baby girl Samantha Jo and in 1994 had another daughter, Nicole Lee. Mary was a stay-at-home mother and the most fun room-mom at their school. She helped throw class parties, coordinated creative crafts, planned activities for Brownies and Girl Scouts, and supervised countless class field trips. In 2008, Mary returned to the workforce at the Aurora Public Library in the Bookmobile department. There, she created book-themed programs for children and nursing home seniors. After retiring from the Bookmobile in 2019, she continued to work for the Montgomery Public Library in the children’s department, where she put her sweet and silly side to great use in the form of children’s activities and crafts.

Mary loves laughing, reading, going for walks, fall colors and weather, decorating her home, the Cubs, giving thoughtful gifts, donating to those in need, and most of all her children. She is known for her big, bright smile and her gentle and loving spirit.

She is survived by her two daughters Samantha Essling (partner Chris Walsh) and Nicole (Jonathan) Zeivel; her siblings, Kathleen (the late Gerald) Mertes, Charles (Janet) Foulkes, Michael (Kathleen) Foulkes, and Sheila (life-long friend Gail Fritz) Foulkes; and many nieces, nephews, and cousins. In addition to her parents, she is preceded in death by her brothers William and John Foulkes.

Visitation will be held from 4:00 P.M. until 7:00 P.M. Thursday, November 18, 2021, at Moss-Norris Funeral Home, 100 South Third Street St. Charles, IL. All visitors are welcome to stay for the memorial service, which will be held at 7:00 P.M. at the funeral home.



Guest Book

  • Donna Andrews Mary Kate was an amazing ball of energy and happiness. She could make you feel better on a bad day and the next make you laugh. She was a joy to work with on the bookmobile and I will remember her smile forever. I'm a better person for having known her.
  • J F Budde Your classmates from St. Patrick's are saddened by your passing.
  • Chris Eversole Mary brought light to everyone around her. She was ready volunteer to help in any way. She always made the children smile and laugh. She was a treasure.
  • BEFarnon Dear Mary, I am sorry we never met. You sound like a wonderful person. So full of life. Your friends and family will truly miss you. I hope they will be comforted by the happy memories you left with them.
  • Nancy Pierce Nikki and Samantha, I am so very sorry for your loss. Your mom was such a joyous person and a pleasure to know. Hugs.
  • Nikki's ALDI team Sending all our love and prayers to the Essling family.
  • Nikki Essing (Daughter) The visitation and memorial service on November 18th is open to the public. We would love to see all of Mary's friends at the visitation. Please come if you are able! Thank you!
  • Eva Luckinbill RIP Mary Kate - you were always sunshine and bubbles on the Bookmobile. I loved your warm personality and ready smile. You really made a difference in the community.
  • Evelyn Essling Love you Mary, You have been in my prayers for all these years. Thank you for two fabulous grand daughters. Mom E.
  • Dennis A Gauger RIP Ms Mary, pleasure working with you at Tri- Com Central Dispatch